What makes you angry? Why does it make you angry? Are you angry more often than not?
For me it’s not really one thing I can pin down; its lots of little things that build into an explosion. I’m not good at letting things go so it’s a real steam kettle when it happens.
I’ve discovered is a simple solution. Will it always work? Likely, but even if it works only 75% of the time its worth it. Keeps the old blood pressure down, stops resentment, and keeps you from doing/saying something in the heat of the moment you will regret later.
When you find yourself getting the least bit upset about something, stop for just a few moments. Take a few deep breaths and think “is this something really so important to get worked up over?” More often than not you’ll find it isn’t. This is harder to do than it sounds but stopping the angry thought for rational though is what you’re after. Often the breath will do the trick but you can try anything that will get your mind off what’s making you angry. I often start singing a chant in my head “when I breath in, I breath in peace, when I breath out, I breath out love.” Usually a couple times gets me back to where I need to be.
The other thing works if what’s making you angry persist over time. This tip I obtained from a book about the law of attraction. There is no “good” or “bad” in a situation. There is only fact and the value we assign to circumstance. If you can step back and see what the actual situation is and then what value you have assigned to it, you can often change how you feel in the situation to something less tense. If after doing this, you still find yourself upset in the moment, try method one to balance it out.
I won’t tell you that these methods always work, or work for everyone. I won’t tell you that they are always easy to do. What I will say is I’ve been putting them to work
a week or two now and I’m far less stressed and likely much more tolerable.
Life is far richer when you are enjoying it, sharing it, helping others. Food for thought
